BOOK TITLE : HOW
TO WIN FRIENDS & INFLUENCE PEOPLE
AUTHOR
: DALE CARNEGIE
AUTHOR’S BACKGROUND
He
was an American writer, lecturer and developer of famous courses in self
improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking and
interpersonal skills
HIS EXCELLENCY IN INFLUENCING PEOPLE
This
book is the massive best published ever that remains popular even today . Probably
the most popular book ever offered in developing better interpersonal
relations, this book is designed to develop self confidence, the ability to get
along with others in one’s family and in social and occupational relations, to
increase ability to communicate ideas ,to build positive attitudes, increase
enthusiasm , reduce tension and anxiety and to increase one’s enjoyment of
life.
WHAT WAS THE BOOK ABOUT?
This book provides a tons of messages that
helps to influence people in proper way and to maintain a good relationship
with others.one of the central idea in his book is that it is possible to
change other people’s behavior by changing one’s behavior toward them.
This
book contains four major parts
v PART 1:
fundamental techniques in handling people
v PART 2:
Six ways to make people like you
v PART 3:
How to win people to your way of thinking
v PART 4:
Be a leader: how to change people without giving offence or arousing resentment
WHAT DID
I LIKE ABOUT THE BOOK?
The name of the book initially stimulate my
attention to read this book. The way of approaching his ideas in attracting manner
and his use of language further made me to dwell in this book. Instead of
providing a boring advice, he presented the moral in the form of interesting
story which enhance the reader’s eagerness to know what happen next. His
ability in molding his thought in a practical manner, shows his proficiency in
writing.
WHAT WAS
MY FAVORITE TOPIC OF THE BOOK?
I learnt
many tricks and tactics from this books. Out of them the one which inspired me
a lot is the effect of smile in person’s life. I realized that Smile wears on
one’s face is far more important than his clothes one wear. Smile is a curve
that sets everything straight .
The
next chapter I focused a lot is sincere appreciation . I came to know that one
of the most neglected virtues of our daily existence is appreciation. Somehow,
we neglect to praise others honestly .honest appreciation got results when
criticism and ridicule failed. Thats what Emerson said that
“Every
man I meet is my superior in someway. in that ,I learn of him”
This
appreciation must have their origin from depth of the heart not from the mouth.
Then I found that one should be hearty in their approbation and lavish in their
praise.
HIS THOUGHTS
CONTRADICT TO THE REAL SITUATIONS
Some of
the examples cited in this book focused on to the western culture. those
culture are not well suited to our tradition. Though author suggested those
advices, at some extent, he too find difficulty to apply this suggestion all
the time. The next drawback I detected is the author insistence to remember all
the person’s name ,though he may not be important to us. It is really a
strenuous effort required to achieve these by a normal human.
A
NUTSHELL VIEW OF THE BOOK
v Become
genuinely interested in other people
v Smile
v Remember
that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in
any language
v Be a
good listener. encourage others to talk about themselves
v Make the
other person feel important
v Call
attention to people’s mistake indirectly
v Talk
about your own mistake before criticizing the other person
v Ask
questions instead of giving direct orders
Though many books furnishes above mentioned
thoughts ,this book impinge those things stick to my mind. The old saying came
to my mind when I read this books is
IF YOU WANT TO GATHER HONEY ,DON’T KICK OVER
THE BEEHIVE
My
rating for this book (4 out of 5 stars)
I.VIJAYALAKSHMI
